I first discovered Nonviolent Communication (NVC) during a painful chapter in my life – when my marriage was struggling, and I felt lost. I was searching for a way out of what felt like emotional chaos. I wanted to understand what had gone wrong, what I could do differently, and how to rebuild something that mattered. I looked for different ways but it was only when I came across my first basic course in NVC that I connected to something I thought could work, could make sense. 

I remember as a beginner I thought, “oh that’s a magic language that can get me anything I want” or “I would speak this secret language and have such an affect on people that they will just do what I want”. Looking back the thought that comes to my mind is, “this is silly, how could I have thought this way” but I know it came from deep needs: to save my relationship, to be more successful in life, to be liked, to be happy. 

I fell in love with this way of conversing, that it went beyond the initial purpose of “saving” the relationship. I continued going deeper with this “magic” for years, seeing it works time after time. And sure, it is not a secret language that put a spell on other people that all of a sudden they do what you want, but it’s magic in the way that it creates connection. Is it that we want the other person to do something out of fear or guilt? or because we have the authority to say so? Or do we want the other person to collaborate with us because they want to? they feel joy in it? out of their free choice?

I learned along the years in each class, each conversation, each encounter how magical it is. How wonderful it is to express my true self without the fear of what the others would think? Wouldn’t you say so?

I had found myself many times in life not willing to be honest, avoiding conversations, questions, situations because I was afraid I would be judged for it. I thought, “they wouldn’t understand because they are used to think in a certain way.” I specifically remember taking an NVC class really far away from my house, 2-3 hours ride each way. I was so nervous to tell anybody, my friends, my family. I did not want the comments, the judgments, the suggestions that might come my way: “why are you wasting your time and money going so far? There isn’t anything close? it’s silly” Therefore, I didn’t tell anyone so I could live freely and joyfully with my decision. However, at some point I did tell one friend that I suspected was different in her attitude. Her reaction was surprising to me. She said: “Wow, I am guessing this class is very important to you, well done on your effort.” I felt my heart expanded, I felt relaxed and a sense of gratitude appeared in my bones. This is it, I thought. This is what NVC is and I like it! This is how I want to live my life, in this consciousness, and I want others to know it as well, so they would have the choice as well. 

Since then I dedicated hours and days in learning, practicing, talking, reading and facilitating workshops of this Compassion Communication with the joy and enthusiasm of contributing and connecting to others. I lead these workshops in Compassionate Communication, helping people from all walks of life discover the power of empathy, honest dialogue, and deep listening.

I still get the occasional message, “I tried it with my husband / my child / at the office and it worked.” or “I wish I had known about it before, I have waisted so many precious years”. 

My mission to bring this approach to as many people as possible, so that we can build relationships rooted in trust, authenticity, and understanding. So that more of us can live as our true selves.